They say confidence is everything. Believing in yourself can come easy for some, while it may take more effort for others. Here’s my take on ways to feel more confident to help you become the best version of yourself.
If you feel like your self-confidence needs a boost, don’t worry! With some practice and vulnerability, you can increase your confidence by following the methods I implement with my private coaching clients.
Here’s the thing: learning how to gain confidence and be more self-assured takes time and practice. This growth requires you to get outside of your comfort zone, try new things, and challenge yourself when you feel uncomfortable.
Like wildflowers, allow yourself to bloom in unexpected places. – Unknown
My personal self-confidence journey
I’ll never forget the first time I stepped into a gym.
I avoided that place my entire four years of college (okay, I went once and walked on the track for 20 minutes…) because I never felt confident enough to go. The machines intimidated me and I had no idea what to do.
Fast-forward to my time living in New York City…
It was in the middle of a failing relationship that I decided to start going to the gym. At the time, I was still very hesitant and awkward, so I decided to hire a personal trainer to show me the ropes. Literally, so many battle ropes.
After a few months, I felt my confidence in the gym begin to grow. Before I knew it, my self-esteem had increased overall and I dumped my boyfriend. He was never good for me, anyway.
I can’t say that the process was easy, but what made it more bearable was hiring a professional who was extremely confident in the area I was not. Having someone to lean on made all of the difference.
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Ways to boost self-confidence
Are you ready to learn how to boost your self-confidence? Check out my tips below to help you be more self-assured and move through your life with ease and increased self-worth.
1. Stop over-apologizing
I’ve found this method very effective with clients of mine. When you’re constantly over-apologizing, you’re crushing your confidence because you instantly feel like there’s something to apologize for. Even if that’s not the case!
Instead, I encourage you to turn the situation around into something positive.
For example, if you’re late to a meeting, choose an empowering statement like, “Thanks so much for your patience!” instead of “Sorry I’m late!”. Not only are you empowering yourself, but you’re making others in the room feel good, too.
2. Ask for support
Like I did with my personal trainer at the gym, lean on others for support.
When we ask for help from others who have confidence in the areas we’re lacking, we no longer have to fight our own battles. Not only will we boost our confidence in those spaces of our lives, but we are giving someone else the chance to support us. That makes them feel good, too.
3. Use affirmations daily
Affirmations are a simple, yet effective, tool to help you boost your self-confidence. Affirmations work because the brain begins to shift its beliefs when we are actively repeating statements that might not be true at the time. Our bodies want to naturally correct that imbalance.
For example, try saying the affirmation I am confident and secure out loud. How does it feel? At first, that statement might feel a little silly or intimidating, but with daily use, you will begin to believe it yourself.
Interested in more affirmations? Check out my Pinterest board on affirmations!
4. Remember what you’re already good at
…and know that you don’t have to be the best at everything you do. Or anything.
The next time you’re not feeling so confident, take some time to remember what your strengths are. Even writing down your top three strengths in a notebook will help you to feel an instant boost of confidence.
Self-esteem vs. self-confidence
Before we dive into how to build up confidence, let’s talk about the difference between self-esteem and self-confidence. Both ideas are similar when it comes to improving how you feel about yourself overall, but there are some differences that are worthwhile to note.
This concept refers to how you feel about yourself on an overall level. This sense of self is typically developed from personal experiences that shape us to become who we are today and doesn’t waver situation by situation. It is tied to the worth in which you hold for yourself.
Additionally, self-esteem goes hand-in-hand with self-respect. It is also one of the primary human motivations on Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs.
Unlike self-esteem, self-confidence does change situation by situation. We can be completely confident in one area of our lives but lack confidence in an area less familiar to us. This belief is tied directly to experiences in particular areas in your life.
So, how do you boost your self-confidence?
Other factors to increase self-confidence
Still looking for more tips to gain self-confidence? Check out these 11 research-backed tips to help you boost your confidence!
Above all, start in an area that feels accessible and approachable to you. Once you have some proven habits in your back pocket, you’ll be able to use them in all areas of your life where a confidence boost is needed. Also, don’t be afraid to push yourself out of your comfort zone!
Self-care and confidence
I’m a big believer that self-care and confidence go hand-in-hand.
For starters, it takes confidence to start a self-care practice and starting a self-care practice can boost your confidence (and self-love!).
To get started on building your self-care routine, it’s important to learn more about out the habits of confident and successful women. These habits, over time, will help you to improve your confidence and feel like a happier you!