Building Boundaries with Essential Oils

My Top Five Favorites

To me, having healthy boundaries in place is the ultimate form of self-care. When you love yourself first and build healthy limits, you allow yourself the gracious act of saying “no” to people and situations that no longer serve you. You also give yourself an opportunity to stick true to your word and honor what you’ve committed to.

Oftentimes, we find it difficult to build healthy boundaries, as we find ourselves feeling guilty or anxious and tend to neglect them all together.

Essential oils can help. From renewing our spirit and mind to protecting our precious energy, there’s an essential oil for your every need along this boundary-building journey. Check out my top five favorites below!

BASIL

THE OIL OF RENEWAL

Basil is said to help clear the heart and mind, relieving sadness and renewing your mind and body with a loving vibration. Basil is known to help with feelings of fatigue, low energy, overwhelm, and the inability to cope with stress.

WHEN TO USE?

Turn to basil you’re feeling nervous or anxious, especially when it comes to initiating the act of setting healthy boundaries in the home, workplace, or throughout the stressful holiday season.

HOW TO USE?

Apply a few drops to your heart when faced with situations where you’re nervous about setting boundaries or feel anxious over a boundary that might be getting violated.
Inhale directly from the bottle if you find yourself in a challenging conversation and are quickly losing the trust in yourself.

 

ROSEMARY

THE OIL OF KNOWLEDGE + TRANSITION

Rosemary is the perfect choice for protection against negative energy (think: exhausting relatives, grumpy travelers, or unhappy children) and helps to energize the nervous system while uplifting your natural spirit. This strong oil is a support tool to help you realize your value and stay strong within your boundaries so you don’t lose yourself in others.

WHEN TO USE?

Turn to rosemary when you need protection from someone else’s negative energy (remember, that is not yours to carry) or an extra dose of confidence when telling someone “no”. Rosemary is also perfect for when you need a gentle reminder of the value you hold within.

HOW TO USE?

Apply a few drops to each temple to aid in mental clarity and confidence when building boundaries or making decisions.

 

MELALEUCA

THE OIL OF ENERGETIC BOUNDARIES

Disinfectant by nature, Melaleuca (also known as Tea Tree oil), is able to clear negative energetic baggage caused by certain relationships. These relationships come in many forms – people, microorganisms in the physical body, or spiritual beings – and have the ability to drain our energy through energy leakage. This oil helps to break the negative ties in these parasitic relationships so that new, healthy boundaries may be formed.

Melaleuca “encourages an individual to relinquish all forms of self-betrayal, including allowing others to take advantage of one’s time, energy, or talents; letting others feed on one’s energy; not standing up for oneself, or feeling responsible for the problems of others.”

WHEN TO USE?

Turn to melaleuca when you’re feeling energetically drained of life force and energy or when a relationship has become one-sided and lacks energetic boundaries.

HOW TO USE?

Place a drop on each foot to help you stay grounded throughout the day.
Inhale deeply before bed to rest and encourage healing sleep that you crave.

 

FRANKINCENSE

THE OIL OF TRUTH

Frankincense shields the body and soul from negative influences and assists the soul in evolution. This powerful oil invites individuals to let go of lower vibrations, lies, negativity, and deceptions and create new perspectives based on light and truth. Simultaneously, Frankincense reminds individuals that they are loved and protected, further strengthening the innermost self and what you truly value to light.

WHEN TO USE?

Frankincense is a great oil to use when you are feeling completely exhausted and/or needing to put your “shield” up. By doing so, you are assisting in protecting your presence of mind and energy.

HOW TO USE?

Place a few drops over your heart to encourage protection and higher energy.
Diffuse throughout the day.

 

ON GUARD®

THE OIL OF PROTECTION

This unique blend of wild orange, clove, cinnamon, eucalyptus, and rosemary is incredibly helpful for strengthening the inner self, especially for those that have a weakened boundary due to a violation of their personal space. This unique blend gives individuals the strength to say “no” to people or situations that are not serving them and maintain their clear boundaries.

This blend is also amazing for strengthening our immunity shield against bacteria, mold, and viruses.

WHEN TO USE?

Turn to this blend in times you need to stand up for your true self. On Guard® is also a great choice when needed to cut out codependency, parasitic relationships, or emotional viruses, oftentimes found with boundary violation.

HOW TO USE?

Place a drop on each foot to help you stay guarded throughout the day.